Tuesday 30 December 2008

The Unbearable Wrongness of Being

I'd really appreciate a comment on this blog.
How do you deal with "wrong"?
It is impolite and bad etiquette to combine two parties together - like a birthday bash and someone's farewell.
It is still bad etiquette to invite people you know to someone else's party.
It is ridiculous to get pissed off when someone calls a spade a spade just because you don't have the balls to do so yourself.
It is bad form to make fun of people when they are down.
It is bad form too if you make promises you don't intend to keep.
It is very spiteful to goad people into fights when life has already beaten them.
It is insane to harbour resentment and then let it all pour over some inconsequential tiff with a loved one.
It is foolish to suspect that your husband will suddenly have this roaring affair with his long-time best friend who happens to be a girl just because you are now married.
It is juvenile to expect your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend to have minimal contacts with their old friends now just because the two of you are together.
It is simply pathetic if you are that spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend who gives in to such unreasonable demands.
It is unhealthy to have to ask your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend for permission before you do anything.
It is terribly unhealthy to be that sort of spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend who needs to have that control to feel loved and cherished.
It is unfair that people who have what it takes to make things work, to turn life around, are never given a chance to show it.
It is wrong to shift the blame of a failure on someone else's shoulders.
It is wrong to make a hasty decision and expect others to live it without giving them a chance to protest or convince.
It is wrong to lie to yourself about your feelings.
It is wrong to see a wrong being done and not do anything about it claiming it isn't any of your business.
It is wrong to not help aleviate pain and suffering when you have the power to do so.
It is wrong to not stand up for what you believe in.
It is wrong to make promises and claim that you did them under duress and because someone forced you to.
Oh it is so wrong to lie about another person's life.
It is wrong not to try to set something right.
It is wrong to give up too much too soon.
When all this happens, how do you deal with it? How do you deal with "wrong"? How do you deal with the fact that you now have to face your worst fear in life and not even have the escape of death because someone else is doing everything wrong?
Life isn't fair, so you move on. You don't always get what you want, so you pick up and feel content with what you have. But when something screams "wrong" what do you do? What can one do?

3 comments:

'Smee! said...

You fight back, honey. And you hope. And you pray. Then you fight some more.

Marvin Grey said...

I have seen most - done a couple of these wrongs, fought a few, and let go a few.

There are some we should always fight to the end, some we should bring up politely, some we should not get into and then there are those we should NOT win.

Examples in my book -

i) Always fight and win - "It is very spiteful to goad people into fights when life has already beaten them"

ii) Bring up politely - "It is insane to harbour resentment and then let it all pour over some inconsequential tiff with a loved one." and the first two instances.

iii) Don't get into - "It is juvenile to expect your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend to have minimal contacts with their old friends now just because the two of you are together."

iv) Don't win - "It is unhealthy to have to ask your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend for permission before you do anything." Or atleast don't let it be known that YOU won.

Bhumika's Boudoir said...

Thank you, both.